What Keeps you from true happiness?

What is it that keeps you from true happiness?

Does your idea of utopia include winning the lottery?  Having a more expensive automobile than your friends?  Having a larger big screen television than your co-worker?  Or does it include ads on tv, radio, magazines and billboards telling you their way is the road to true happiness?

Well, they are totally wrong, wrong, wrong!  Unless you have some innate  personal love of lottery winnings, expensive cars, or keeping up with the Joneses, don’t allow yourself to buy into someone else’s idea of your best life.  If you do, you’re in for a huge fall-flat on your face.  Understand, no one but you has even the slightest clue as to what makes you happy or how to live your best life.  If they tell you they do, they need to take deep, deep breaths and move the heck on.

What you love is as unique to you as your dna.  You need to understand that because nothing will make you really happy but doing what you love, take a good hard look at people who are actually living their best life.  You see peace, confidence and contentment in their eyes and patience in their actions.  They know they’re in the right place at the right time, dong the right thing.

Deep inside of yourself, you know what you love don’t you?  You know what makes you happy.  You know your dream of finding the right mate, the right job, losing a few pounds, living a healthy life, even traveling the world.  You wish you could live a more holistic life; or begin or own a business, even put your own spiritual principles, no matter what they may be into action.

Perhaps you don’t have any dreams or aspirations, or maybe you can’t articulate your dreams, but you can sense them deep inside you.  Even if they are not clearly defined or articulated, they are never far away.  Generally speaking, true dreams are almost impossible to get rid of.  The dreams trouble and tempt you.  They keep reminding you that you’re not satisfied with your life, that something crucial is missing.  If my words are disturbing to you, you are just not living your best life.  You need to learn to take deep cleansing breaths and move on to what serves you best.

As impossible as this may seem, this is very lucky for you..this state of moving outside your comfort zone.  If your hopes, dreams and aspirations didn’t’ trouble you, you may forget them entirely and never know if they could have become reality.  This is what we as a people have been trained to do.

I’m not going into  what happened to us in the slave dungeons, on those horrible slave ships or those dang plantations.  We should know our history.  But it all began for us at that time..the feelings of worthlessness, of settling for less than what we are worth, or having others impose their truths about us.  We must move out of that victim state and walk into our own beautiful reality.

If your dreams didn’t trouble you, you’d forget them, remember that.  So this exercise in moving your comfort zone to live your best life is an excellent one to gage where you are and where you’re going. Forgetting your dreams is what you have been trained to do.  Whenever we dream out loud, we are criticized for being foolish by people who really have no clue how special we are.  As a result, we abandon our hopes, aspirations, and dreams without giving them an inth of a chance.

Whenever we begin to think of our dreams, we quickly recite the reasons why we can’t.  When we do that we wonder why we feel like failures, or that our lives have no meaning or purpose.  How do I know all of this?  There was a time in my life when I got an A+ for FAILURE and another for QUITTING.

But I learned valuable lessons the hard way.  I learned some very valuable principles in the process that catapulted me like a cannon shooting out of a rocket-forward.  They are:

1.       If you can’t change the people around you, then change the people around you.

2.       Awareness + Knowledge = Choice

3.       I am one of a kind

4.       I had divine gifts that I needed to begin to use

5.       I didn’t have to change ME to change my LIFE

Trust me when I tell you this.  I had ot take a whole lot of deep breaths and begin to move on and lose the madness.

I began to love me, and all that was ME.  I went into recovery (link), not to change the authentic me, u tot learn to cope and change the way I thought about me.  I found what motivated me, so I could be gentle with myself.  I also learned that having my dreams fulfilled and internal validation of who I was improved my sense of self.  I was more energized as people noticed the change in me and my own feelings of who I was validated the compliments.  I was on a mission, and I was cocky, even confident!

You will find as you begin to love you and all that is you, self love will improve you. You’ll become a much better person when you learn to through out the garbage others have left in your mind that decayed deep in your soul. Understand something, that was never really you.  It was the person someone imposed upon you.  You were living up to someone else’s idea of who you are or how you should be.

Again, trust me when I tell you that having your dreams fulfilled, knowing who you are, is one of the greatest accomplishments or gifts you can give yourself.  Not fulfilling your dreams is a loss to the planet and most of all to you because the world needs all of our gifts.  Malcolm X once said, so succinctly, “If you want freedom, then fight for it.  If you can’t fight for it, you don’t deserve it.”

Even though you may think you are pleasing yourself, you are helping all of us by sharing your God given talents.  It’s only right and fitting that we give our best back while living our best life.

Let’s take this journey together.  You’ll be living your best life before you know it.

Many blessings!

Princess Ademide Adinasse

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